Tuesday, August 27, 2013

When Answered Prayers Turn Out All Wrong

Answered Prayers-sometimes we receive from God and we are sure we are going down the path that he wants us to take, only to find out later that it was a mistake. You think, What just happened here? Why aren't things going like I thought they would?

I remember when my daughter was little and her new daycare had to close due to the city wanting to build a baseball park on their plot of land. We were panicked to find a new daycare. Our daughter loved her school and she was well taken care of  each day.

I started calling around but there were waiting lists months deep.

There was a church with a daycare that we had heard great things about, I knew that this was the place...but they had a list, a long one.

We didn't  think she would get in.

It was coming down to the wire, old daycare was about to shut it's doors forever and new daycare still hadn't called.

It was about this time I had a sort of new spiritual awakening. I worked with some spiritual women and they were influencing me in a good way. I had been praying again, sincerely, and even getting up and reading my Bible. It was the start of a quiet time that I still do today.

I really started praying about this whole daycare situation and praying that the list would open up at this church so that K could get in. I felt because it was at a church it was perfect, everyone seemed responsible and professional. I just knew this was the one, and I needed God to supernaturally open up that list for my baby.

And he did!

He answered my prayer( in the nick of time, I might add). Why does he do that?

I couldn't believe it! God heard and answered my prayer, I was telling everyone.

It wasn't long though before my little angel started flexing her strong willed muscle. A child that once loved to go to school and be the teacher's helper now didn't want to go at all.

She would cry and cling as I dropped her off. Scream my name as I left. Oh my word y'all, it was AWFUL!

I would cry all the way into work and rush to the bathroom as soon as I would get there to clean myself up-
crying and Alabama humidity doesn't make for a very pretty sight.

I started wondering did I get it wrong? Is the place that I thought was an answered prayer really not? Why would God answer my prayer and then have it turn out like this??

I kept thinking give it time, she's adjusting she will get used to and then she will love it!

Yeah,didn't happen.

What did happen is that she looked miserable and unhappy every time I went to pick her up. And Lord was she sick in there, constantly. I can't even remember all the gross stuff she picked up, and then shared with me.

I remember my husband saying, "Well I guess you were wrong, this wasn't a godsend."

How did this turn out so bad? I prayed, received, and then hated this place so much!

I realize now, that He did answer my prayer, just not in the way I was expecting.

I don't know why some things turn out they way the do, or why prayers even answered ones don't turn out to be blessings like we think they will be.

I do know for me, that this particular answered prayer was the point at which I seriously considered being a stay at home mom. I couldn't deal with my heart being broken every day, and besides I wanted to be home with her.

Maybe, sometimes God gives us what we want to show us it's really not what is best for us.

He gives in to a job or a move to put us on the path he wanted us to be on all along.

Just because something doesn't turn out the way we hoped and dreamed doesn't me we aren't going to have a beautiful life. There is a reason for every season. Hope for every heartbreak. We may not see it now, but one day we will.

I promise.

What about you? Have you ever had an answered prayer that didn't turn out the way you expected?

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  1. Yes!! When we moved here to MN for what seemed to be the "dream job" for my husband turned into a nightmare, us both losing our job...facing the real possibility of foreclosure. And then my husband too a leap of faith and started his own business...and now we are doing better than we ever dreamed While I was angry for a time I can now see how God was working in the impossible to make the possible happen!!

    1. Wow! That's amazing! God works in ways I know I will never understand, and some things we go through can be just heart wrenching. But, He has a plan even when we don't see it. Thanks for stopping by and sharing Kristin!

  2. Hi Alecia,
    "Maybe, sometimes God gives us what we want to show us it's really not what is best for us." Yup. Kind of the opposite of that song by Garth Brooks (I know, I'm an old-time country fan...) - Unanswered Prayers. I thank God everyday for some of those unanswered prayers. I hope your daughter is doing great! What a good mom you are!

    1. I love some old country music, and Garth Brooks is one of the best! Thanks for stopping by Janet, it's nice to 'meet' new faces. K is doing awesome, and is starting her 7th grade year. Thankful for answered and unanswered prayers!

  3. Oh, I'm living this right now- that answered prayer is turning life on its head and showing me God's plan is rather different than mine, but I believe He knows best... I'm guessing, like you, I'll look back on this time and smile at the way He used this situation to grow me into the woman He's been planning all along. Always thankful when I have time to linger here, Alecia.

    1. Oh yes, Alicia, you will one day look back and see his plans and know they were good all along :) It's always good to see your face round these parts.

  4. Every day, my friend. Every. Day.

    Visiting from Tell His Story.

  5. Wow -- what a story! I think sometimes God knows that we can get such tunnel vision and it takes situations like these to really get us to look up and out.

    Yes, I have to say that through this book writing with my husband, God has answered prayers in ways that I never expected.

    1. Can't wait to see the final product of your book.It's crazy how, sometimes, God answers prayers in ways we never expect. Many blessings, friend!

  6. Great story. This happens so often - we expect God to answer in one way and He might actually do it, but they He has this whole other plan going on that we know nothing about. Wow! Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thanks Debi.Just when we think we have things figured out, God sends a curveball to throw us off. At least we are never bored ;)

  7. Oh such good words you've shared. I think I'd have to say when I prayed for my marriage to be restored I never expected he would choose to use what I had fought for so long...becoming a military family. It still blows my mind and as my husband prepares for a deployment I think it's knowing that He led us down this path that help me to trust Him through this next chapter. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Wow, that's tough. You're in my prayers during this tough time, Beth. I know from experience God uses the things we say "never" to, to show us we can do things we never thought we could. Blessings, friend

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    1. Yes, I know you do Denise. You're always in my prayers Denise.

  9. Quite often, yes. At times, it's completely confounding. Thank you for sharing, Alecia.

  10. Alecia,

    It's funny, isn't it, to think about the varied responses to some answered prayers some times... God is interesting. I'm thankful he is for our good and his glory ultimately. That brings relief to me in those situations.

    Re your comment on my post "Forgotten Arts in a Sweltering Underbelly Week," it's true, we miss him too-- my sweet college boy. :) Thanks.

    Jennifer Dougan

  11. oh Alecia, yes... i know these questions well. and I love how our Lord uses these situations to grow and teach us. you have a beautiful mama heart. e.

  12. OH MY GOODNESS, sometimes, so many times I think did the Lord put those words in her head so that I would read them and say....THAT IS ME? You hear from the Lord, I am sure you already know this I am sure, but you do, He has given you a true ministry, keep it up girl friend.

    I am pretty much in this place right now with my son. It is like a gamble. I have prayed to get into this particular school and now after years he gets in, is it a blessing or is the Lord just giving it to me to so He can make a point of why he hasn't allowed it up til now.

    I always say, "God loves to hear specifics" but maybe he just needs to hear that we want His will in whatever situation we are in and we will be content with His decision no matter what.

    In all situations....Jesus I need and want your will. PERIOD!

  13. I really like this video. In it the speaker talks about how the prayer was seemingly answered wrong but in fact lead to the right thing. Give it a watch. http://www.mormonchannel.org/video/mormon-messages?v=2714780496001


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