Wednesday, September 26, 2012

I Wish I Would Have Told Him

Job 28:13 "Man does not comprehend it's worth; it cannot be found in the land of the living."
The Devil pulls no punches, when a battle of the mind is taking place,  he arrives early to the ring, he feels out his opponent, and zeroes in on their weakness to make it easier to deliver that final blow.

His lips salivate when he sees self-doubt and insecurities.

He knows he can deliver a punch to the heart that will make you feel unloved.

And the mind, it's next.

He will tell you lies; "No one likes you," "Oh my gosh, why did you say that? Now they think you are stupid!" "Your a LOSER," "It doesn't matter what you say or do, you'll never be good enough."

He's there to win and he will play dirty if that's what it takes to destroy your mind.

All he has to do is make you believe, believe just one, and he knows you're his. You will fall because he will beat you with his lies.

"Does anyone love me? Because everything i post gets no attention but everyone else's get lots of likes and comments."
This is was my 13 yr old nephew's status update on Facebook last week.

And I cried, y'all! Maybe I was just having an overly emotional day, but I sat there speechlessly staring at the screen with my heart in my throat, thinking how in the world could this child wonder if he's loved based on Facebook likes?

How at 13, and how at 33 can we buy into this lie? That we need others approval in order to feel worthy or seen?

At 33, I know my worth is more than followers, comments, and Facebook likes, but, oh how I can forget sometimes.

Matthew 10:31 "So don't be afraid, you are worth more than many sparrows."

 But at 13?! In this age of instant communication, silence would have withered me.

My 13 year old heart couldn't have handled it

That devil, he's not playing around, he knows what he's doing!
He's been around long enough to pick up when someone's doubting their self worth and he has all the right tools for his dirty work.

Facebook, I love it and I hate it; if used for it's purpose it's great, but not so much if I'm using it to get others to validate me through  "likes."

John 12:43 "For they loved praise from men more than praise from God."
I wish I would have told that sweet boy to look up. Look up to the One who loves him deeply, passionately, and endlessly. He will give you an infinite number of "likes" if that's what it takes to know you are loved.

I wish I would have told him not to find his worth in small meaningless things, like Facebook.

Cause you know, people, they're imperfect and will fail you every time. But not God, no, not God.

I cried for my nephew but I also cried out to God. That God would show him love in a tangible way he would know and accept.

I cried for all the times I've drawn my own worth from things around me, just like this child.

For all the times I've asked God to show me his love and reassure this girls heart.
 Psalm 86:13 "For great is your love toward me.."
How do you tell a young heart that they are so loved by the unseen, when they live by what they see?

In that moment if I could have reached through the 800 miles that separated us and looked into his big brown eyes I would have told him how deeply he is loved and wouldn't have stopped until he believed me.

Oh friends, how tempting it is to "go there" and want people to "like" us, and if our worth isn't firmly rooted in God, the silence from others will wreak havoc on our fragile hearts too.

Our acceptance can only come from God and anything else is less than his best.

It's a good thing for a 13yr old and a 33 yr old to remember.


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  1. my 13 and 27 year old self can so greatly relate to this. Thank you for sharing today.

  2. This truth is so important. Thank you for pressing in the point in such a tender and stirring way. May your words reach each ear that needs to hear this. May God press into the hearts of those that read, TRUTH. Tender, loving, constant mercy and love. Your words stir deep. Simply beautiful. I ache for the vulnerable.And aren't we all. Love of Christ to you, friend. Thanks for brave words.

  3. Oh, yes, the truth of all this "liking" and "following" is that our approval needs only come from the ONE we follow. It's so hard to remember in this facebook world that the only face we need to seek is that of Christ's. Some days, I'm not all that different than your dear 13 year old nephew. Thanks for the words of truth here today. Blessed to have met you through Jennifer's link up!

    1. Thanks Alicia, I feel the same way about you. And yes it is hard to remember we can so easily caught up we forget that it's only Christ's approval that we need.

  4. This is so beautiful, Alecia! The Creator loves each of His children infinitely and forever -- what else do we need? Yet our human minds are so quickly swayed and our hearts so easily broken by earthly things and relationships that pale by comparison.
    Love in Him,

  5. I needed this post a few weeks ago when I wrote this one (at 33 years old):

    1. I'm hopping over to check it out now...thanks for stopping by this space.

  6. What a sad story, but it's so true for all of us. Really, Satan plays with all our doubts, and insecurities, and uses such things as Facebook to dig further insecurity into our poor kids. I've been planning a blog entry about Facebook, as I know myself and other mom's feel, we're just not as good as the other moms. Thank you for sharing this! God Bless!

  7. We are, we just have to remember we are seeing the best side of everybody of FB, and we can't compare our lives to the "best" we see. Thanks Crystal!

  8. oh my friend. this is such a wake-up call... i'm sharing this on facebook. hopefully some people like it (just kidding :))... xo

  9. powerful share....thanks for the raw beauty
    of this honesty.


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