As you know Fifty Shades of Grey comes out this week. I have not read the books and do not plan on seeing the movie. It's my own personal conviction.
I have no plans to judge those that have read or will see, but I do have some thoughts as I have been going back and forth with someone close to me that has the opinion Fifty Shades isn't "that bad"and debating whether or not the trilogy is a love story or a story of misogyny.
After enduring a painful abusive relationship in my teens I know how impressionistic young girls can be. I was one. When you are looking for love in the wrong places you will undoubtedly find it.
The kind of men like Christian Grey are very charming and mysterious. A lot of women like men that they can't figure out. It makes things interesting. But before you realize it, you are swept up in a relationship, have fallen for a guy that knows your weaknesses and how to use them against you.
This is what I'm afraid for when young girls see this movie. And if they have Christ-believing mama's that talk about how much they love the books and are dying to see the movie, I also wonder what kind of message that sends.
This will of course be a subject we may have to agree to disagree on, and I'm ok with that. Really I am.
It's my goal with this post to give you some food for thought. Maybe get you questioning, is Fifty Shades a book I should have on my bookshelf?
There are many opinions. I know. But to me, love should build each other up. It should be respectful and kind. Perfect? NO.
Love doesn't intentionally inflict pain (even with a willing participant) to fulfill their own desire.
The Bible says to "do not conform ourselves, but be transformed."( Romans 12:2)
How does watching Fifty Shades transform the world around you?
If you are a Christian you have been set free of old habits, sin, forms of bondage. Then why would you want to put on an old dirty coat over our gleaming white one that was paid for with blood?
You are called to be light. To live and love differently.
Porn is a $14 billion dollar industry. I'm betting that half of the girls in those videos are under age and have been trafficked and forced to live and do humiliating things on a daily basis.
Strong will prey on the weak.
I have a fourteen year old daughter. It makes me sick to think that the girl on one of these videos could be her. Or worse when she as a boyfriend could be talked into doing any of the sex-acts in Fifty.
With the lie of Fifty Shades permeating our world there will be people that will take this sad piece of fiction and try to recreate it in real life (mainly young people). There will be marriages that see this and convince their spouses into thinking this is okay because they are in the confounds of marriage.
Sin always sounds like a good idea at the time, doesn't it?
Please remember if we don't stand for something, we will for for anything and everything.
I hope you will not fall for Fifty Shades.
"Authentic love does not devalue another human being. Authentic love does not silence, shame or abuse,” Brooke Axtell
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