Tuesday, May 6, 2014
Comparing, Insecurity, & Fear
I wrote a post for Laura Rath.
And as I wrote I felt like God was telling me so much more to say, so I decided to write a second post...and a third.
I bring my perspective from that of a woman. I think comparing is the one thing that trips us up time and time and time again.
We feel insecure for many reasons.
We feel there are so many different ways we don't measure up. And keep falling short.
Our house isn't clean enough
We don't cook enough, or well enough, or healthy enough
Our clothes aren't designer...or new...
Breast fed vs bottle
Cloth diapers vs regular
Stay at home vs working mom
We compete when we don't feel good enough. We look at others who seem to have it all together or not and think "What's WRONG with ME?!" "What's WRONG with THEM?!
Our enough is not enough so we throw fiery word darts at each other to make others feel like they aren't enough either.
Take that, you well put together woman with your perfect husband and kids!
We sit in the mud and muck. Dirty with our own judging and yuck. Why?
Isn't who we are are and what we have good enough? We are enough.
Say it with me,"I am enough!"
When we accept and BELIEVE this truth then it will be so.
Our so-called competition, insecurity, and fear....GONE.
Here's the rub: We love ourselves and then we are free to truly love others (easier said than done, I know).
Love doesn't return void. Ever.
The comparing and competing will always divide. I may not be like my well put-together friends, but I can recognize that and it's OK. I'm not made like them nor them like me. We all struggle in some way, no one is good at everything, we all have weaknesses.
The important thing is to be vulnerable and share those weak spots. Admit where you're weak and others will too.
Love and vulnerability is the only way we can break down the walls of them and us.
Linking with Soli deo Gloria, #TellHisStory, Three Word Wed, Winsome Wed, Imperfect Prose, Thought-Provoking Thursday
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