But then I had my first. And was faced with the decision to work and put her in daycare or stay home and not eat. I chose to work.
We were young, fresh out of college, and had no financial sense about us, and being right out of college we were just plain broke, or what we like to refer to as poh, it's worse than broke.
Putting K in daycare was something I knew I had to do.
And can I just say, it was not all fun and games like I pictured. Not. at. all.
It was the downright hardest thing I had ever done. All day with a toddler, a needy, busy into everything at one time toddler, was exhausting.
I could literally feel the life being sucked out of me. I started hopping back online to look for a job, to put this kid back in daycare!
Alas, nothing came about, my husband's dream of owning a boat was dashed and I started to feel like God wanted me to stay put. He had a thing or two he was going to teach me, so I'd better put on my big girl pants and get ready, cause it was going to be a bumpy ride.
Here I am now 12 years later, still alive, I have survived thus far, and there are a few things I want to tell you about staying at home.
Being a stay at home mom has it's ups and downs. There are days you know you never want to do anything else and there are days you wonder what happened to your life?!
You're washing dishes for the upteenth time, wiping down counters that seem to stay sticky and always cluttered. The laundry never seems to cease, and let's not talk about the bathrooms, dusting, or vacuuming...
Referee, that longs to play fair between opposing sides
Chauffeur, between school, church, and the after school activities, you are putting quite a few miles on that car of yours
Nurse, you stay up all night when your lovely has caught the latest stomach bug and is barfing it all over you. Bandaging up skinned knees and kissing boo boo's goodbye.
Counselor, when your child starts school and they tell you that so and so isn't their 'best friend' anymore and ignored them all day. Or you now have a tween on your hand and there is boy drama along with the friend drama. Better pray up, cause you're gonna need some of that wisdom the Bible is talking about!
You, Mamma, are the first one they turn to. They know you are there and can count on you to listen and love them.
It's a thankless job, that the world won't thank you for. On the contrary, it's more likely to say you are wasting your time, your life, your degree.
But what the world doesn't know, for some of us, being at home isn't just a choice it's a calling.
You are stronger than you think. Smarter than you know.
Motherhood brings out a side in you, you never knew existed. You are fierce, Mamma bear.
Motherhood isn't for the weak...or weak stomached.
The skills you are acquiring now you can't get anywhere else. What other job requires you to manage multiple schedules, while making lunch, wiping tears, and cleaning up the kitchen for the millionth time simultaneously? You are an amazing multi-tasker.
So, yes, maybe the days do seem to wander into the next or you're wondering if this is your life, like, for real.
When you're babies look at you they know there is no one else that compares. You are the woman!
Staying home is hard. It can be lonely, and your days are filled with talking to little people that don't understand much of what you are saying. It's a demanding job that never sleeps, literally. But you do it anyways because there is no other place you would rather be.
No other place where you will be this fulfilled and empty at the same time.
Being a housewife is choosing to say at this moment in life I am putting other things on hold and am going to put my heart and soul into raising these little's into the best they can be.
You can't be there for every moment, you will royally screw up more than get it right, but "for such a time as this" you are going to give it your all and do the best you are equipped to do. I believe in you, and you can do this!
Some may not understand the choice to stay home. Worse, you will be criticized and accused of being lazy and not a help mate at all, forcing your husband to bear the whole financial burden.
Stay strong in the Lord, he will give you the faith and the strength to keep going when no one, not even your kids appreciate what you sacrifice and do.
I see how hard you work to keep it all together and make things work.
You are a hero to not only me, but to others as well. You are doing a fantastic job!
Keep it up Mama, one day you will be able to look back, and you will know it was worth every minute.
***It's not every woman's choice to be a stay at home mom, and that's ok, we are each called to live and parent differently. This is for those that choose to stay home.
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