I'm not even sure where to begin this post, but it's something that's been on my heart for a while.
Where do girls in school learn it's OK to snub, and be mean? Where do they get the notion that it's OK to diminish another for their own social good?
I hate to say it momma's but I'm afraid it may be us.
We may not overtly do it in the manner of school kids but it's more discreet. And it's still there.
Our kids pick up their cues from us, I'm not saying all of them, but the big ones..those are us.
Do they see us staying within our circle and never reaching out?
Do they see us snub the new girl within our own groups, by not being friendly or hospitable?
Do we give freely to those in need or grumble and complain about holding on to what's ours?
Do they see us smile and carry on conversation with someone just to turn around and start sneering about them once their back is turned?
Are our own identities wrapped up in who we know, who our friends are, what we wear, what we drive?
I think it may be time to do a heart check and be very careful about our words and attitudes around our young ones. We know gossiping is wrong, but we still do it anyways. Are we really shocked when we hear our girls come home ripping apart someone else because of something they did or said?
Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking -Romans 12:2 ( The Message)No one has it all together and we have no right to place judgments on another's life.
As a mom, and especially as a Christian we should be the first to offer grace, love, acceptance, and forgiveness. Because we know the cost that Christ paid for our own love, acceptance, and forgiveness.
"...Replacing judgement with grace can turn the world into a kinder, gentler place to live. It will turn churches into safe places for relationships to be nurtured It will make moms groups enjoyable places to find friendships." (Jill Savage, No More Perfect Moms)
We haven't been changed by Christ to go back to our old ways. We are to be salt and light to a dark world. And that means embracing the new us, and letting go of old habits and ways that led us to the cross in the first place.
And please momma's,watch your tongue.
Our words have the power to build someone up or tear them down. And aren't most us already fighting the battle of the mind as it is?
The more talk, the less truth. The wise measure their words.Proverbs 10:19
It breaks my heart to hear about young children committing suicide over bullying. Bullying stems from insecurity. Affirm your kids. Tell them they are loved. Model the behavior you want to see in them.
When you mess up, apologize and make them do the same, hold them accountable. Our words hurt. Hurtful words never leave us.
Insecure mama's can raise some big `ol insecure kids. We're not in high school anymore mom. The ways of social acceptance may have worked back then. But now, and especially if you're a christian, those ways don't work. And you shouldn't want them to.
When we give others the silent treatment because they've hurt us or that has been miscommunication, guess whose watching? And is going to treat her friends the same way?
When we complain about so and so behind their back to other friends or worse complain about their kids in front of yours. Guess whose going to do the same thing? Little Janie.
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18You have the right to choose to be different. It's not easy, but think how relationships could be changed if we were the one to extend the hand of grace first? If we said "No more" to gossip and the relationships that pull us down.
Let's grow into who God made us to be.
Be comfortable in your own skin... confident.
Insecurity comes from not knowing whose you are.
Together we can raise our kids to do big things for the kingdom of God and live for Him and not this world. Things need to change and it starts at home. With you and me.
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**Renee Swope has an amazing book called The Confident Heart, this book has helped thousands learn to accept the unique person God created them to be. God doesn't expect perfection, He knows how much we mess up each day, He just wants us to keep getting back up and turning to Him when we do.