We celebrated my son's 8th birthday over the weekend. I. Can't. Believe. My baby is 8.
Birthdays make me nostalgic. They make we want to stop time and hold still the day so that it won't become a distant memory so soon.
And they make me think, am I doing everything with my kids while they are young that I can? Am I investing enough? Do they know how deeply they are loved?
Or do I rush around trying to get one more things done and treat them as one more thing to do and deal with?
So many times I do-guilty.
As we sat on the couch yesterday talking about our day and Jackson was telling me what he liked the most about his birthday, I sat quietly listening and holding on tight to the little boy that is growing before my eyes into a young man. A man that will one day have his own wife and children. And pride and tears well up at the same time.
I hope times like these will stand out more than the not so cozy and sweet times.
As I sit and listen I think isn't this what it is all about? To not run around like crazy people with never enough time?
Sitting and breathing deep each others presence, squeezing every ounce of time and life out of each other before they both slip away.
We live in a world where busyness is praised and is the standard of living. The busier you are the more full your life?
No time to sit. No time to just be. Will we regret all the times we let time slip by? Thinking there's always tomorrow?
I want to grab hold of the day and the people that mean the most. They are life. They are God given, they are our daily blessings.
I don't need more time. I have just enough. The same as everyone else, everyday.
I don't need finish my to do list, or do one more load of laundry or read one more email.
I do need to be fully there wherever I am, and be in the moment and capture it in my heart.
In our age of technology and staying connected it has made us more disconnected than ever.
Our kids talk and we absentmindedly nod and sigh and give out uhuhs, just so that they think we hear them. But I don't. Am I really to wonder why they don't seem to hear me?
Their small school dramas are their world right now and when I haphazardly dismiss my daughters latest drama, she will soon stop talking about the small and the big.
What is going on in their little world is a big deal to them. We know they will grow up not to even remember so and so's name, but right now, in this moment, so and so is a big deal.
Am I taking up the same time with them? Making sure I connect and that they know they are more important than the latest breaking news?
One way I've found that I can do this is to put my phone on charge once my kids come in the door and leave it there.
They are home from being away at school all day, I've had my time to connect with the world, now my time is theirs.
It's amazing what you hear when you listen with your full ears and heart. You hear the message behind the drama. What's really going on in their hearts. It's the perfect time to instill Godly truths into them because all day long other things have been battling it out for their hearts and minds.
I wish I could say I do this all the time, but I don't. But I'm challenging myself to do it more often. I'm challenging you too!!
Let's disconnect to connect. Let's let our families know that they are more important than the latest status update and latest tweet, let's fully engage and be fully there, in the moment.
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